||Friends, Casual Dating, Long-term Relationship
Man for Dating
||Democrat, Far Left, Leftie, Liberal
|I get around town via: Car, Public Transportation, Walk
|My dietary preferences are: Conscious Omnivore
|I spend my free time: Reading, Working out, Watching movies, Dining out, Sleeping, Communing with nature, Fringe theater
|Funniest Thing: My kid
Wanna hold hands?
When writing these essays, I find myself overcompensating towards ďnot sounding like everyone else,Ē but that might be driving me away from what Iím trying to get across. I donít want to make you read yet another cardboard description of the fun-loving, easy-going girl whoís really into yoga and self-improvement, but subjecting you to my latest ponderings on peak oil and Americaís antiquated expectations of marriage doesnít seem quite right either. How to reveal the perfect level of non-surface details without going too far into crazy head ramblings that might scare you off.
Hereís what I like best about me, and some of my friends have confirmed this:
Iím funny. Not all the time, but once I get comfortable and find you open to goofy stories and snide remarks, they will be plentiful.
I listen and do my best to understand what youíre saying and why youíre saying it. Again, not all the time. Like most girls and people with mild OCD, sometimes Iím distracted by shoes or my ever hovering to-do list. But, in general, Iím with ya. I donít see this as a selfless trait. My best relationships, both friendly and romantic, have been with people I can have truly in-depth conversations with. Itís a rare and tremendously fulfilling thing to actively listen and base responses on what the other person just said, rather than waiting for your turn to talk.
Iím trying to live my life with purpose. This is always a work in progress, and involves trying to find time to read smart books, practice my guitar, get more involved in energy sustainability, figure out career goals, etc. But Iíve made a lot of progress of the past few years. I moved back to the city. Became a deeply appreciative parent, rather than a stressed out and unbalanced. Went to grad school and got my masters. Became more self-reflective.
Iím hoping that, if youíre not bored to tears and moving on to the next profile, some of this strikes a chord. Itís a brief glimpse of who I am. I feel a little obligated to throw in a few surface details
ē Iím outdoorsy, but not super athletic. I enjoy walking around Green Lake, hiking, and snow shoeing. If youíre really into an activity that doesnít take a tremendous amount of skill or coordination, you can probably talk me into trying it out.
ē I have an 8-year-old daughter who lives with me 50% of the time. Being her parent is definitely a part of my identity, but certainly not all of it. I can have entire adult conversations without bringing her up. Iíve found dating fairly easy to schedule on my non-custody days.
ē After attempting to live the ďAmerican dreamĒ in the burbs for four years, I found that I am a city girl through and through. The car culture and lack of community in the burbs is not something I can happily live with. City life is important to my happiness. Iím hoping you feel the same.
ē I do enjoy a weekly yoga class. Not super original or interesting, but Iím convinced that it will help me live longer and healthier.
What Iím looking for:
You are also a funny smarty pants who enjoys long, in-depth conversations over coffee or cocktails. Youíve got a healthy self-esteem, but can still crack a self-deprecating joke once in a while. You like going out for dinner and a show or staying home for risky collaborations in the kitchen. Youíve processed your past relationships and grown from what you learned. You can communicate about your feelings, and arenít afraid to call me on my bullshit (I promise to call you on yours). You understand that relationships need maintenance after the honeymoon phase. Youíre down with PDA.
Yeah, I know Iím asking for a lot. But, if we are of similar minds, perhaps you wonít find this wish list unreasonable. Maybe it even resembles your own.
What is something that people are surprised to find out about you? I used to be in the Husky Marching Band. And I've been to Tibet.
What kind of person are you attracted to? I love smart people who are self-aware and can make fun of themselves. And if you can make me laugh, I'm yours.
How far will you travel to meet the right person? Within the city limits. Possibly the Eastside, if you're really awesome.
What's something you want to do but haven't? Travel through southern Europe.
My radio dial is usually tuned to: KEXP or KUOW
If I could change one thing about Seattle, it would be: More sun, less gray.
One movie everyone should see is: The Cradle Will Rock. I know period pieces are not for everyone, but who doesn't love a good story about the New York art/theater scene during the Depression? And John Cusack's in it!
I consider myself an open-minded person, but my deal breakers are republicans and sausage fingers
My idea of a great date is one that turns into more dates.
The first section I turn to in the Stranger is Last Days
My guiltiest pleasure is Red Mill
When stuck in gridlock I sing like a diva.
The quickest way to my heart is through my sense of humor The quickest way to my bed is smart, sexy flirting And in the morning, I like my eggs cooked by you
Great sex calls for lots of communication and biting.
It's Sunday morning at 10 a.m. If I'm not still sleeping, I'm entertaining the girl
One sport I will never get is most of them
White meat or Dark Meat
Early Bird or Night Owl
Princess Leia or Princess Amidala
Surf or Snow
Black or Cream and Sugar
New York or L.A.
Library Card or Amazon
Ballard or West Seattle
True Blood or Twilight
Ocean or Lake
Thongs or Boy Briefs
Vinyl or MP3
Casket or Cremation
Bath or Shower
Murphy's Law or Karma
Tushy or Tuchus
I-5 or Aurora